by Amia Phillips, MA, P-LPC, Reiki
Let’s talk about sex baby! Now how did that make you feel? It’s different when you’re just listening to songs about sex and how they can “eat it like groceries,” or “busting it wide open,” or other explicit statements that insinuate how to get down with your sexual partner(s). However, for some people, talking about sex and sexuality can be incredibly uncomfortable. It’s often seen as taboo to discuss in many social circles. But it doesn’t have to be! Today as your sexual guide and myth buster (cue in Ghostbuster theme song!), we will explore the different myths and facts surrounding sex and sexuality, as well as how you can talk about these topics comfortably with friends or potential partners.
Sexual Myths vs Facts
When discussing sex and sexuality, it is important to understand the differences between myths and facts. Some of the most pervasive sexual myths are that oral sex isn’t “real” sex, that women don’t enjoy or initiate sex as much as men do, that all women orgasm from penetrative intercourse every time, or that masturbation is wrong. However, none of these statements are true! (By the way, have you heard of scrotum or perineum orgasms? It can be another great way for men to explore pleasure!) All types of consensual sexual activity are valid and enjoyable if both people involved are comfortable with them. And there is no right or wrong way for someone to experience pleasure—everyone has their own unique preferences when it comes to sexual activities.
Sex & Kinks
Another aspect of sex and sexuality is exploring different kinks or BDSM (Bondage/Discipline/Sadism/Masochism). If you have an interest in exploring these activities but don’t know where to start, there are a few key tips you should follow. First off, communication is key! Make sure whatever activities you take part in have been discussed beforehand so both parties are on the same page. Secondly, practice safety first! It’s important to make sure that everyone involved knows how to properly use any toys or accessories they may want to use during playtime. Thirdly—and most importantly—have fun! Explore your boundaries at a pace that makes you feel safe and comfortable while still enjoying yourself along the way.
In conclusion...
Sexuality can be a difficult topic for some people due to its taboo nature in our society—but it doesn't have to be! By understanding the differences between myths and facts surrounding sex and sexuality, knowing how to safely explore kink activities with partners (or alone!), and having open communication about what feels good for everyone involved in any kind of sexual activity—you can create an environment where everyone feels safe and comfortable talking about their desires without judgement. If you need help navigating any issues related to your own sexuality or relationships with partners around this topic—reach out to me so we can work together towards improving your relationship with your body & mind around these topics! Your friendly sex therapist guide is here for you!