Loneliness and The Holidays
The holidays can bring up a lot for us. For some, it brings cheer and celebrations. For others, it is a reminder of loneliness. If you are someone who may be alone for the holidays, this one is for you.
There are many reasons as to why someone is alone on the Holidays. These reasons can include: a death of a loved one, suffering from mental illness, relatives are too far, you are not close with your relatives, setting a boundary, COVID-19, etc. Whatever the case may be, I want you to know that you are seen, loved and validated. Here are some ways to cope with loneliness on Holidays.
For individuals who will be alone on Holidays, you can use this day to turn the Holiday into a “YOU day!” For example: My name is Izzy and I can turn this Holiday into “Izzy day.” On “YOU day,” give yourself permission to do things that YOU want to do and/or have been longing to do. Make the Holidays the ultimate self-care day because you deserve it. Allow your interests to explore the day with you. What this means is put on your favorite shows/movies, eat your favorite foods, listen to your favorite music, key words are “your favorite.”
Spending this day alone can also be a great opportunity to reflect on the year and identify ways on how you would like to continue to grow in your life’s journey. Feel free to journal your ideas or even speak it aloud and have a conversation with yourself. Trust me, it is okay to talk to yourself!
Here are some reflection questions to help you get started:
What are you grateful for?
What is your favorite memory in 2021? Least favorite?
What is something you are proud of?
Who was there for you this year? (it is okay if only you were there for you. You are most important in your life).
Is there anything you want to improve on?
What do you want to leave behind in 2021? What do you want to bring with you?
Are you in therapy? Why or why not?
Feel free to come up with your own reflection questions and allow yourself to be honest. Only you can see what you write or only you can hear what you say. Do not be afraid to be honest with yourself and your thoughts. Being honest will allow you to notice where you are most stuck. Let this be a day of healing.
Other ideas to cope with loneliness on Holidays:
Catch up on any work/ homework
Take a walk
Buy yourself a gift
For those who are religious- go to church
Host a virtual party